A couple weeks ago, I wrangled my recent growth down to about three steps. Full disclosure: I inadvertently stole one from Jen Sincero, and realized it when I went to write this review. Definitely hire a coach regardless of who told you to, but following through Jen’s HIRE A COACH push is literally what got me to where I am today. Read on.
About 9 months ago, I started listening to audio books on my drive to Middleton from Willy Street and the library had Jen Sincero’s “You Are A Badass®: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” available! Not one for self-help or personal development books, but also on the waitlist for the Sci Fi Epic Novel I really wanted, I downloaded it and dug in.
HOLY. CRAP. This book can be summed up in the word that had been missing from my career for quite some time: ACTION. Stop thinking, wishing, planning, and DO it.
Jen Sincero has had a pretty diverse, crazy life. She’s worked for a record company, tried (and failed) to start a band, then wrote a book about it. Had a failed relationship (and wrote a book about that too). Then she became a life coach (THIS book!) The thread that runs through all of those experiences, the theme, is action. She took action and freaking did something.
And when you boil it down…that’s what makes a Badass. THEY DO SOMETHING!
1. Create a vision for and outwardly be the person you want to become, in every way.
Inhabit the vision you create for yourself, become comfortable in a new “skin”, and watch your confidence grow. Associate with people the new version of you would spend time with and that inspire you. (You are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. Choose those people wisely!)
2. Open yourself to the universe (or whatever you call it) and stay the course when things get hard. There is no magic wand to make money fall from the sky, and things will go sideways. But, if you live with gratitude, trust your vision and stay focused … shit happens!!
3. Stop caring about what others think. We waste so much time worrying about other people’s perceptions and (quite frankly) we’re usually wrong! Find people you trust to use as a sounding board, but make decisions based on your vision and trust. The empowering drive of “YEP. I’m doing THAT.” is absolutely insane.
This book had a big impact on my life, not least of which was me getting permission to compliment compassion with action and – ultimately – hiring my business coach. I’d recommend, though, reading it alongside or after a book on awareness as well (something like Pema Chodron’s “Start Where You Are”) as Jen’s demeanor can be a little harsh and she skips much of the deep personal awareness it takes to make lasting change. It can be a dangerous game, jumping forward into a new vision or confident action without being aware of the patterns and behaviors that have created your current life.