I have so SO much to share with you all in the coming months… It’s been a crazy few years with so many changes internally and in the world and I want to start by sharing the biggest most importantest thing I’ve learned through my divorce, my journey back into full-time coaching after closing a branch of my business, rebranding and now onto opening a studio on the Capitol Square in Madison:
3 Steps to Accomplishing ANYTHING
Even the stuff you said you’d never do again because it was so hard / exhausting / defeating the other times — THOSE THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.
I wanted to be a tattooed, hypersensitive, crop-top and Chuck Taylors wearing, boss-lady in an amazing relationship while world-traveling and coaching full time kick ass powerhouse of a human being. SO I DID IT.
If “bake cupcakes for the lead singer of Pearl Jam while walking this earth as a hippie flower child in patchwork overalls” is your jam: THAT’S AWESOME. GO DO THAT. Or if your dream right now is “Live completely pain free and move like I did when I was 22”…
GO FIND A WAY TO START DOING THAT FOR REALS LIKE RIGHT NOW!!!!
To keep the excited baby goats bouncing off the walls in my brain contained, I’m going to narrow this down to three things that have made my current state possible:
Find someone who sees you for what you really are, calls on the potential glowing deep inside you begging to be let out, and doesn’t give in to the stories you tell yourself on your bad days. This is so important because we can only see through our own filters, and brains are smart enough to tell you scary things are a bad idea! Good coaches can see the whole big picture, know the monster doesn’t actually have teeth, and keep you attuned to what’s possible on the other side of whatever mountain is in front of you.
(Note: If your first guide doesn’t resonate or you reach an end point with them…don’t stop asking for help! This doesn’t mean “quit because it’s hard or you’re mad at them.” It just means don’t stay in a relationship that doesn’t serve you because you feel guilty or obligated.)
I don’t know much about physics, but I listened to “Astrophysics for People In a Hurry” and I do know you don’t get something from nothing. You HAVE to put physical, spiritual and interpersonal “gas” in your tank if you’re going to go anywhere!
For me, this meant giving up a few things and hiring someone to make meals for me, bailing on social commitments to go to bed at 9 pm and shutting down my phone on the weekend. It meant committing time to doing the things I know make me a glow-y human being, like art journaling, gardening with my Human and sitting on the floor with my dogs.
You might feel guilt. Or fear about the resources it takes to get resources. DO IT ANYWAY because this step will make or break you.
When you’re healing or growing, there are days when want to just lay down in bed with a straw in a wine bottle. That shit is real. And telling yourself to “just get over it” or “think positive!” is missing the point.
Own the dark places. Own how much you want to quit. Ask that experience and that feeling what it is asking of you and why it’s showing up. (Maybe from under the blankets because it’s safe there and sometimes there are dogs snuggling with you there too.)
I have walked through the hallways of a psychiatric unit with a bracelet on my wrist and the mountains in California with a Camelback strapped to me. I’ve been fat and thin, married and divorced, an employee and an employer. And I’m here to tell you : YOUR LIFE IS YOURS to create. Your BODY is yours to create. Your brain is capable of such incredible things that sometimes it’s even scared of itself.
Reach out. We’re here to remind you of who you are when you’re under the covers and dance around with you when you’re on the mountain top.