I’m a heavy practitioner of boundaries and self awareness… but my biggest struggle around the holidays is guilt. Hard Core, Well-Tailored Guilt.
Guilt for taking a day or two off from work. For not traveling to see one family member or another. For turning down offers from my local “family” in favor of just taking a vacation day to sit on my couch. For sitting on the couch.
I put on guilt like a pair of perfectly worn jeans. I’m crazy comfortable because it keeps me on the safe side of things! (You can’t be mad at me if I already feel guilty about it. Ha!) But it doesn’t serve me, and I’ve been slowly working through the bad behavior of subconsciously self-serving guilt.
With that struggle in mind – I asked our local humans in an email this week : What is the most stressful part of the Holiday Season for you? … and we got answers that ranged from “Too many social engagements!” to “all the damn junk food!”
Underneath all the exclamation points and the vibrating tension I could feel oozing from my inbox, I heard something very clear :
I can see my patterns. I can see what I don’t like about my behavior.
Why can’t I just change it?
So we’re bringing you a blog series in the next couple weeks to touch in on just that! We want to talk about WHY your brain does what it does around the holidays, seemingly hijacking your inspired hopes to stay whole and energized this season and HOW you can re-wire it to allow you peace, strength and hope.
First! a couple baseline principles that we’d like to share:
Brains are wired for survival, and they’ll put a lot of “thriving” on hold just to feel safe.
- Brains love predictability. Routine. Sameness.
- Brains default to patterns that require minimal effort (especially when under stress.)
- When struggling with resources, brains will throw you back to the easiest, oldest pattern.
- Your emotional “old brain” can and will hijack your intelligent “new brain” when under too much load or threat.
- You can RE-WIRE patterns and shut down the hijack with awareness, acceptance and action!
There SO. MUCH. POWER. to move into the next couple months with grace and love and fire with this kind of information on your side!
Stay tuned for the next few blog posts on how to keep your exercise routine during the holidays, choose healthy food or deal with your family.
In the meantime : Write to us! Tell us about your personal biggest struggle or recent triumphs during the holidays.
I’d love to hear about it and remind you that you’re not alone, that you can feel alive and free and lovely this season and that we’re available in downtown Madison in you want to talk or work out (like… hit a punching bag or something.)